Nadiia Mykolaivna (Dovbysh) Kostyuk. Mother’s Wisdom — Identity and Sensibilities#

1. Identity#

Engineer, specialist in administrative and documentation support for scientific institutions, teacher by education (French language)

2. Life Path#

• Date of birth
  03 January 1947

• Date of death
  02 May 2021 (74 years)

• Place of Birth
  Popivka village, Konotop District, Sumy Region, Ukrainian SSR

• A place of death
  Kyiv, Ukraine

• Burial place
  Kyiv, Baikove Cemetery

• Cause of death
  After a long illness

• Citizenship (s)
  Ukraine
  Russian Federation

• Parents and Relatives
  Father: Mykola Fedorovych Dovbysh (Nov 22, 1921 – Nov 20, 2015)
  Mother: Kateryna Oleksiivna Dovbysh (Halushko) (Aug 25, 1926 – Jan 8, 2018)
  Sister: Vira Mykolaivna Kuznetsova (Dovbysh), b. Oct 4, 1948

• Family
  Husband: Anatolii Ivanovych Kostiuk (Aug 26, 1948 – Jun 14, 2015), married since 1969
  Son: Oleksandr Anatoliiovych Kostiuk, b. Feb 24, 1971
  Daughter: Anna Anatoliivna Pivtoraк (Kostiuk), b. Oct 9, 1976
  Grandchildren: six

• Education
  Zaporizhzhia Pedagogical Institute, major: French Language (Teaching)

• Place of work
  • Institute for Superhard Materials of the Academy of Sciences of the Ukrainian SSR — Engineer
  • Since 1986 — Engineer at the Postgraduate Department of the Institute of Cybernetics, National Academy of Sciences of Ukraine
  • Since 1996 — Engineer-Inspector for Human Resources Administration at the Design and Technology Bureau (SKTB) of the Institute of Physics, NAS of Ukraine

3. Professional Precision#

• Errors are not corrected — they are prevented
• Clean form creates clarity of thought
• A text must be written correctly from the start
• Handwriting reflects inner structure
• Repetition leads to quality
• Learning happens through refinement to an ideal state

4. Living Presence#

Nadiia Mykolaivna Kostyuk (née Dovbysh) was the embodiment of inner grace, intelligence, and the quiet strength that held the family space together.
She was a steadfast support to her husband — not only in daily life but also in thought, dialogue, and the atmosphere of their home.
Nadiia had a natural sense of style: she wore custom-made outfits, always walked in heels, kept her nails manicured — composed, refined, and elegant. She taught not through words but by example — through attention to detail, clarity of language, and deep respect for education.
With her children, she didn’t just help with schoolwork — she read aloud, discussed art, taught them to think, to sew, and to create a harmonious personal image. While she held high standards, she was also gentle, kind, and always knew how to offer words of comfort.
Despite her many responsibilities, she managed to work, read, cook, care for the family, and remain a source of love. Her presence could be felt everywhere — in the quiet of the evening, in the lines of a corrected school essay, in a thoughtfully chosen accessory.
She is remembered not only as a mother and a wife, but as someone who created a true home — not just a place, but a space filled with warmth, beauty, and dignity.

5. Creating the Environment#

Nadiia Mykolaivna had a deep sense of beauty — in clothing, in words, in daily care. She sewed with love: for herself, for her daughter, and even for dolls. Her thick album filled with sketches, patterns, and sewing instructions was a whole world — a model of aesthetics and precision that could never be forgotten.
She didn’t just write down recipes — she cooked with inspiration. Her homemade meals were a form of art: delicious, beautiful, and meaningful.
Her notebooks on folk medicine were pages of care: she knew the purpose of every plant, every herb, and shared this knowledge with gentleness and accuracy.
And in a separate notebook of religious reflections lay the depth of her inner life. She prayed for everyone — for the whole family, for each person. And her prayers were as warm as her home.

6. Transmitted Sensibilities#

• Beauty is created in the details
• Neatness is a form of respect
• Language must sound precise and clear
• Care is expressed through concrete actions
• A home is a space that is felt
• Education is not an obligation, but an inner culture
• Gentleness and high standards can coexist
• Silence carries meaning
• Excellence is the result of discipline, not talent
• The level of environment determines a person’s trajectory

7. Formative Scenes#

📓 1. Perfect Form#

Form as Thinking
A notebook allows no mistakes.
A text must be written correctly from the start — without corrections or crossings-out.
Repetition becomes a tool.
Each new page is more precise than the previous one.
Form no longer limits — it creates clarity of thought.

📖 2. Language and Understanding#

Language as Structure
A text is read aloud.
Intonation, pauses, meaning — everything must align.
An error is not a sound, but a lack of understanding.
Understanding develops gradually.
At some point, reading becomes precise.
Language stops being form — it becomes thinking.

🌿 3. Decision and Environment#

Environment as Choice
A decision is not made under the influence of an offer.
It is made through understanding the environment.
Behind attractive conditions, there may be a different reality.
And it must be seen.
The environment determines development.
And it is chosen consciously.
What appears as an opportunity is not always the right path.

💍 4. Priority of the basis#

Foundation Before Accent
External emphasis cannot replace the foundation.
First — condition, then — decoration.
Care matters more than display.
The base is always perceived first.
What highlights must not conceal.

👗 5. Readiness for the meeting#

Always Ready to Meet
Going out is always a possibility of encounter.
Even if it is just the nearest shop.
Appearance is not accidental, but a constant readiness.
Presence has no secondary situations.

🙂 6. Expression as responsibility#

Facial expression is important
The face is part of communication.
Even in silence.
Expression is shaped just like words.
It is not accidental.
State is read instantly.
And it is a responsibility.